• We are done, Jaco

    I have not looked at your blog, I do not care to. When you began to make empty threats against me, after reading the content of your blog earlier, so many of you comments (including the ones to me), it became obvious that you are not worthy; no matter how hard you pound your chest professing what a man you are. Who are you trying to convince, because it’s not working for me? Pamela deserves so much better…


    There is no terrorist conspiracy; are you over-dramatic or what?

    Terrorism is, in its broadest sense, the use or threatened use of violence (terror) in order to achieve a political, religious, or ideological aim. Although “terrorism” originally referred to acts committed by a government, currently it usually refers to the killing of innocent people for political purposes in such a way as to create a spectacle.

    So Jaco, how many innocent people have we killed? Do you not see how stupid you sound?

    You have negated any claim you had for harassment with your own behavior. The retaliation you have resorted to, the threats, the put downs, the blackmail, your comments, and your blog, have created a hostile environment, making you the biggest bully/harasser. Had you actually consulted with any attorney of worth, you would have been advised that you are doing yourself more harm than good.

    On the advice of my attorney, I now humbly request that you cease and desist your attacks and threats against me and anyone connected to me.

    You are a lucky man, for you have a woman that loves you dearly, with all of her heart. You have a chance to create a beautiful life for yourself if you embrace her love and return it in kind. Look in the mirror and decide what is more important to you, this losing battle you are waging, or your happiness. I sincerely hope that you would prefer love and peace to silly Facebook battles.

    I know that reading this from me will immediately send your walls up, make you suspicious, and probably anger you… I know because my husband is the same way, but I know my husband’s heart is good, and for Pamela’s sake, I want to believe yours is too. I want to believe that you, like my husband, are hot-headed and quick to react, but that is not what you are all about. My husband’s emotions are intense, all of them, and I know how easy it is for others to see the intense reactions as all there is. That would be a mistake.

    Good luck to you, Jaco.

  • Reply to Jaco van Deventer

    As background, I received a note from someone that has been warring with members that belong to a group that I administer. I really had not paid attention to much of the back and forth between the parties, not wanting to get involved. Here is the note, that was posted to Facebook in three parts:


    Here is my response:

    Dear Jaco,

    I have a blog on my webpage also.

    Wolfskin Central is a public group, and any “correspondence” between members is usually done right there, in public. Any correspondence done on private messaging is none of my business, so I do not have access to it, and I do not want to.

    I have no desire to participate in games and I do not react very well to being threatened. I have done nothing to you and you are taking this too far. You are acting like the big bully. Knock it off! I am not impressed. Explain yourself for this comment:


    I took this screenshot from your blog:


    It seems you are two-faced, taking great pleasure in dishing out threats and blackmailing others (read your notes to me above), while threatening to whine to “the authorities” if we do not play your game. How do you even have time for this?

    It is time to put the big boy pants on and act like a man. You are beginning to sound pathetic.

    I am not hiding and easy to find. If you plan a visit to Sacramento, let me know, I can suggest the best hotels and venues for your stay. If you show up at my door with a bunch of thugs to “get me…”

  • Dealing With Cancer XXXIII

    09/05/2016~ I have been bad… In June I posted to Facebook that Jim was in remission, but for reasons I do not understand, I did not post it here.

    The Petscan showed that the cancer in his lymph nodes, liver, and spleen no longer posed a threat, but was it gone? The answer was that Jim had to be tested every three months. I get all my answers from Jim because I do not want to create more stress for him, understanding very well the need that we “only children” have for control over our own lives.

    It is not that he does not want me involved, for he really does, and tries to share everything with me, but the information I get is subject to his interpretations. This drives me crazy, but I try to remain positive and uplifting.

    How is he doing? Well, I am not sure. He easily spends 20 hours of a 24 hour day in bed. He has no energy to inspire him. I have been sidelined with diabetic wounds on both ankles, complicated by MRSA, which I got during treatment the last time, when I got a spider bite. Jim has had to take over shopping duties because I cannot drive without immense pain. He also drives me to my weekly appointment. This seems to have done him good because it gives him purpose, but I can see this slowly fading.

    Jim has his first three-month appointment on September 23rd. We have no choice but to take things day by day.


  • Dealing With Cancer XXXII

    This waiting is unbearable!


    Yes, we are playing the waiting game! Jim was given “a month off” after his chemotherapy course ended.

    We were happy because Jim needed a break. What were we thinking? Jim has his next super-duper scan on Tuesday, June 14th in Roseville, then he sees his doctor on Monday, June 20th. Until then, we have no idea if the chemotherapy worked, or what plan B might be.

    Jim has spent the last month sleeping most of the time, a sign that deep depression is setting in. He gets up to eat several times a day, when he has an appetite, but sometimes he will go 18 to 24 hours without eating. He says he is just not hungry. I talked him into weighing himself… He now weighs 156 pounds. Am I scared, you ask? Do wild bears $hit in the woods? Here is the proof.


    I try so hard to keep things positive and Jim hasn’t completely given up hope, but there is not a day that goes by that he does not say, “I’m dying.”

    So here we are, waiting!


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  • Dealing With Cancer XXXI

    05/28/2016, I have not written anything in a while… My bad…

    We have been in a holding pattern. Jim’s six month “course” with Chemotherapy is complete, and now we wait for him to go to Kaiser, Roseville, for a new high tech scan. After those results are in, the doctor will determine where to go from here.


    Jim has been feeling fatigued, with no energy. He had a really bad neck ache, but I am unable to find any lumps. He now says his neck no longer aches. Hmmm…

    It is frustrating to try to find specific information about lymphoma. Do not get me wrong, there is plenty of information out there, but some of it is so vague that is becomes useless. I looked up neck pain with lymphoma, and almost all of it is related to the diagnosis for lymphoma; sometimes, people that think they have the flu, with classic symptoms like swollen lymph glands in the neck, are diagnosed with lymphoma. The lymph nodes we associate with this are in the the front of the neck, but his pain is/was coming from the back of his neck. I learned we have lymph nodes at the back of the neck also.


    Uncertainty is torture!

  • I Used to Like and Follow “We The People”

    What does voting mean to you? Do you research issues and candidates? Do you vote your conscience, or just see what others think and vote their way? Do you listen to the pundits who tell you how you should vote? How do you feel when you have diligently picked the candidate who would be the best, and then see others turn on your candidate with demeaning remarks and ridicule, calling your candidate a spoiler? Does it make you angry when you are told that a vote for your candidate equals a vote for the hated other side?
    Let me share with you one example of what I mean. This is regarding a Facebook page that I once admired… The page is called “We The People.”

    I no longer trust or respect this page.

    They posted an article by Mother Jones, but it was their own commentary introducing the post that offended me.

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    I read it over and over again, hoping to find a silver lining, but there was none. I was angry and so I made a comment.


    They did not handle my criticism well (I will admit to being angry), nor did they choose to give an intelligent, well-thought-out perspective. Instead they called me an idiot and banned me from commenting on the page at all. I would like to think that they were unsure how to handle me, but the truth is, this type of reactionary action and commentary seems to be the norm.

    Since then, they have escalated their attacks on my candidate and coined a new name for his followers. We are now Berniebots.














    They have stooped well below the line of decency. They call themselves progressives and “Berniebots” are now cynics. Does the commentary with each of these posts show progressives in action? NO!