Life can be a learning experience if you pay attention and this past year has provided more than its share of learning experiences. I was thinking about that last night, trying to make sense of this roller coaster ride that life has taken me on since joining social networks and I realized that Facebook was just like a big amusement park. There is a ride for everyone… and sometimes you pick up a few stalkers along the way.
My stalkers used to be my friends, but when I see the kind of people they really are, I am relieved to have been released from their grip because trying to be their friend was becoming very difficult. The tension was almost palatable and the bullets being shot by one of these “friends” were getting hard to duck. They were taking screenshots and making fun of me behind my back I later learned, just waiting for any excuse to pounce; yet they call me the traitor saying I betrayed them.
Friends do not have to agree on everything, they can have different views on different things, but for me, friends have to have a core value system that I can respect. I am an animal lover. I currently have three rescued cats, but I love dogs too. I am a strong defender of No Kill for animal shelters; I abhor puppy mills and animal cruelty; I do not support animal testing, vivisection or experimentation and I think fur farms are an abomination. I do not hunt and I am not against hunting per se, but I am completely against trophy hunting and the public display of hunters reveling and rejoicing as they pose with their kills.
When I met my “friends” I had no idea what these people were really all about. Now that I know, I would never have been “friends” with them.
- They support the fur industry and the cruelty involved saying all women should wear furs
- They fully support research on animals, crediting the research for every cure imaginable, whether true or not, with no regard for the animals themselves.
- Animals are not important to them and are here to be used and abused
- They take delight in killing animals themselves
- Many are cat haters and even killers, jubilantly posting and liking gory pictures of dead and tortured cats and the one who has two cats of her own actually supports them
- They have no sense of decency or decorum, preferring profanity over finesse in an effort to bully their opinions down people’s throats
- They troll everywhere in Facebook in order to catch anything they can use to ridicule and demean others
- They attack in hoards, tagging their group members into conversations so they can gang up together.
These are not the kind of people I could ever respect, but because of them I learned new lessons in life so there are few things to regret all in all…
- Some people will never like you, accept it
- You will never like some people, quit trying
- I met some incredible people who I never would have met had it not been for this, appreciate them
- I learned that categorizing people (i.e. Hunters, ARA’s, Anti-Hunters, etc.) is nothing more than stereotyping, which is discrimination at its worst
- Just because you are an Animal Rights Advocate, that does not make you a pedophile
- Just because you are a hunter, that does not make you inbred
- Insulting others is a sure way to make enemies
There is so much more that I have learned, but it would fill up several pages…
The most important thing I learned is to appreciate and love all your true friends… they will reveal themselves to you in times of stress; grab them, hold them and never let them go.